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This
page is dedicated to safe sex and herpes
The cold sore/herpes virus
is extremely contagious and will spread rapidly into open cuts or other sores A
male or female with an active blister could transmit the virus to their sexual
partner through slight abrasions created by strong sex.
Some couples have reported no transmission of the virus even though they have
been in a sexual relationship for many years. This is put down to restraint
during outbreaks or very particular avoidance of the blisters during sex.
Condoms should definitely be used if engaging in causal sex but they are not always 100% protection as body fluids may be spread whilst disposing of the
condom. Also these new wool condoms have a woven texture through which this
incredibly small viruses can migrate.
If you
care about your partner and want to have an intimate relationship with her or
him, herpes does not have to stand in the way. Couples deal successfully with
herpes all the time. In most cases, it is only a minor inconvenience.
Herpes
often brings about some changes in a couple's sex life, such as abstaining from
sex during outbreaks. For most people with herpes, this occurs only a few times
a year. Ask your partner how often he or she has outbreaks so you'll have some
idea of what to expect.
Between
outbreaks, you may wish to use condoms to reduce the risk that you will get
herpes. Condoms offer the best protection against other STDs as well, which is
important in a new relationship. Since herpes does not pose a serious health
risk, some couples choose not to use condoms in a long-term relationship.
You and
your partner will need to have open, honest communication about herpes so you
can work together to prevent transmission. Your partner will need to feel
comfortable telling you when he or she feels an outbreak coming on. Your
relationship may benefit as you talk and establish trust.
On the
other hand, if you aren't sure about the relationship, or you are uncomfortable
with the risk, consider delaying intimacy for a while. Get to know your partner
better, and give yourself time to adjust to the idea of herpes. There is no need
to rush into a decision.
Keep in
mind that all relationships face challenges, many far tougher than herpes. Good
relationships stand or fall on far more important issues -- including
communication, respect, and trust.
Information and pictures on this site
are provided for informational purposes and are not meant to substitute for the
advice provided by your own physician or other medical professionals. You should
not use the information contained herein for diagnosing or treating a health
problem or disease, or prescribing any medication. If you have or suspect that
you have a medical problem, promptly contact your health care provider.
herpes & safe sex
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